Strength that stays calm under pressure
“Unbroken Resolution Group exists for one reason: to help families find a way through conflict without losing themselves or their children in the process.”
Tim Farmer
I've spent my career in high-stakes environments where staying calm and fair matters most. For eleven years, I served in the Federal Bureau of Prisons, working across multiple facilities and nearly every role there is, up to acting in senior leadership, including training as a hostage negotiator. That work taught me something most people never have to learn: how to stay steady, clear-headed, and fair when the stakes are at their highest and emotions are running hot.
Underneath it all, I've always been an educator. I hold a Bachelor of Science in Communication and a Master of Arts in Education, and was licensed in Special Education (currently inactive). Across public education and my years in the Bureau of Prisons, I've spent twelve years in the field of education, teaching, training, and helping people grow. Communication and learning are the tools I've relied on my entire career, and they're at the heart of the work I do now.
More recently, I moved into learning and development, and I began writing about the hardest season of my own life: divorce, co-parenting, and rebuilding, which includes remarriage and a blended family. Conflict resolution is where everything comes together: staying calm under pressure, treating people fairly, and helping them find a way forward when they can't see one themselves.
Today, I bring that experience to families and organizations as a registered Indiana Domestic Relations Mediator, Certified Professional Life Coach, Parenting Coordinator (available December 2026), and divorce and parenting consultant. I'm also a husband and a father, which keeps this work grounded in what matters most: helping people protect what's most important to them, especially their kids.
I’ve Sat in Your Chair
Before I was a mediator, I was a client. I've been through a high-conflict divorce. I know what it feels like to get a message from your co-parent that makes your stomach drop. I've paid the legal bills, waited months for hearings, handed my family's future to professionals, and hoped they were paying attention. I've felt what it does to your finances, your sleep, and your time with your kids.
I built this practice because of what I learned in that chair: most of the fighting was avoidable, most of the money didn't have to be spent, and nobody handed us a better way. This is the better way. When you sit down with me, you're not explaining your situation to someone who studied it; you're talking to someone who lived it. I trained as a mediator, parenting coordinator, and coach, even wrote a book, because I don't want any family to walk through it as blind as I did.
In mediation and parenting coordination, I don’t take sides; that's the job, and I take it seriously. Coaching is different: there, I’m fully in your corner. What both roles share is this: I understand exactly what's at stake for everyone at the table.
What Guides the Work
Neutrality: I don't take sides. My job is to be fair to everyone at the table.
Steadiness: High conflict doesn't rattle me. Calm is contagious.
The child first: When children are involved, their well-being leads every decision.
Self-Determination: The decisions are yours. I guide the process; you control the outcome.
Author
Tim is also the author of Chess, Not Checkers (2026), drawing on hard-won personal experience to help others navigate conflict, co-parenting, and rebuilding with strategy and resilience.
